Those who know me well know that I don't expect much every July 27. I have given up on celebrating big since 2003 when the Oakwood Mutiny prevented my grandparents from celebrating with me. It mattered most because they were my only guests!
Celebrating the 30th birthday is supposed to be extra special. My friends celebrate theirs by going on solo trips or buying a huge purchase like a car! I envy them, I do, because now my husband and I only have enough to treat my family to a Korean dinner.
What's more difficult is the fact that even if it is my birthday, I am sharing the limelight with someone else – my son who just turned 2 months. Once a year na nga lang, may kaagaw pa ako sa eksena?
Then it hit me. I asked for this.
I remembered I was in the labor room, on my 13th hour in labor and I was looking at the clock. It was 10:15pm. "Konti nalang May 28 na", I thought. "With the rate my cervix is dilating, baka abutin pa ako ng bukas." I closed my eyes and whispered: "Anak, take your time, titiisin ni Mommy yung sakit. Pero kung okay lang, labas ka na ngayong 27. Para pareho tayo na 27 pinanganak." My son was born 11:08pm of May 27,2017.
No I'm not gonna say my son was the best gift I received because (1) that's such a cliche and (2) he's a blessing for Christian and me, I don't want him all to myself.
But I realized – my son has given me the gift I needed the most – the gift of maturity.
Being a mom suddenly gave me a new set of glasses to see the world. Ibang iba. Suddenly the world is so unsafe, unforgiving and at the same time, full of promises. Suddenly I understood people more. I am surprisingly more patient – something I was convinced I will never be until now.
Suddenly I felt how to be selfless. This little human drains all my energy and yet he's also the one who fully recharges me. He fills me up with so much joy, I can function with just 30mins of sleep! I think my son has given me superpowers too.
If I saved all the money we used from pregnancy to birth, I think I can buy myself a car for my 30th birthday. But for now, I thank God for a cake with a super lengthy dedication, and a two month old boy who is a source of priceless joy.